Francesca Posted on April 06 2025
In the past few days, I received this question:
"I wanted to ask you, Francesca, which crystals could be helpful in overcoming procrastination caused by excessive mental confusion, lack of focus, overthinking, and difficulty grounding oneself. Thanks again."
Carolina
Carolina’s question brings up many important themes and deserves a well-rounded answer. I thought I’d use her words as a compass to guide this article.
There can be many reasons why we procrastinate, and they may relate both to our circumstances (for example, a situation that we need to understand more deeply, which calls for a new level of awareness and the development of new inner faculties) and to our personal difficulty in taking action or staying disciplined (which can reveal a lack of trust in ourselves and in life).
These two scenarios reflect completely different energetic configurations: the first may correspond to a conscious individual who allows themselves time to reflect, while the second may indicate that certain inner territories are asking to be acknowledged, structured, and brought into balance.
But let’s take it step by step.
Let’s take a moment to better understand this distinction—because before we talk about the stones and crystals that might help us move through procrastination, we need to ask ourselves: is it really procrastination, or is it something else?
Sometimes, what we label as procrastination is actually a valuable and healthy part of our growth process.
When life throws something unexpected our way, or we realize it’s time for a change, we often wish we could respond like in the movies—cool, clear-headed, strong. We want to know exactly what to do and just do it.
But real life doesn’t usually work like that. It’s a bit more layered, a bit more complex than a movie script:P
When we’re met with new situations—or when something shifts inside us and new priorities begin to emerge—we often need time to pause and reflect. It’s in these moments that our mind, heart, and spirit need space to listen to one another, to come into harmony, and gently guide us toward what truly feels right.
Every time we reach a new awareness, our body, our spirit, and our inner wisdom need room to adjust, to realign. And that’s not something we can rush—it takes time.
Only when that inner alignment has settled will we find the strength and clarity to move forward with intention.
Usually, the bigger the change we’re being called to make, the more space we need to process it. And that’s okay.
Sometimes, even when everything seems clear on the surface, we still can’t find the energy to act. That might be our inner self whispering, “Not yet.” Maybe that intention simply needs to rest a while—like a seed waiting for the right season—so that when the moment is right, it can blossom naturally and fully.
This time of stillness, of reflection, is precious. It lays the groundwork for a new version of ourselves, a new dream, a new path. That’s why it deserves to be honored, not rushed.
For each of us, this “pause” can take different amounts of time. So, as explorers of ourselves and conscious individuals, we are called to understand our own rhythms—so we can recognize when we need time to reflect, and when there’s something truly blocking the flow of our growth, holding us back from moving forward. In other words, when we’re really procrastinating.
This might sound all too idealistic, clear and simple… in theory! But in reality, we often confuse feeling ready with the end of our doubts. Let me explain.
When we decide to embark on a new path, or simply think about introducing something new into our daily routine, doubts always arise (we’ll dive into some of these later). At the core of it, there’s a part of us that, in an effort to protect us, keeps us anchored in the known territory—because it feels safer and less risky.
The further we are from listening to our body, from honoring our physicality, our passions, and the respect we have for our own needs, the harder it becomes to step out of our comfort zone.
Usually, if our grounding is too weak (or excessive), we risk staying stuck, until that feeling of “I know I should do X, but Y…” becomes the new normal.
What this means is that part of our vital energy remains blocked—it’s unable to flow freely according to the natural biological rhythms of life. And it tends to get stuck in the parts of our body where the conflict is taking place.
So what are these conflicts that cause us to procrastinate? What is it that blocks our vital flow, preventing us from diving into a new venture with enthusiasm, and allowing ourselves to evolve through action? What is it that, as Carolina mentioned in her question, creates this overwhelming mental confusion, which then turns into overthinking and makes it difficult to be present in the moment?
And this is why we can’t answer Carolina’s question in just a few words: the difficulties in overcoming procrastination she’s describing are really a translation of emotional states that can have different origins in our energetic system.
It’s easy to jump to conclusions about which energetic areas need our attention (and, by extension, which stones can help us) when we base it solely on the words describing what we’re experiencing. But this approach can sometimes oversimplify the dynamics, leading us to make basic mistakes.
Don’t worry, though—I’ll explain everything and share some examples with you!
To know which crystals and stones can best assist us in overcoming procrastination, we first need to understand where the conflict lies in the manifestation process. Where is that “I want to, but I can’t” within our energetic system?
In reality, it can be in any area of the body because every part of our body plays a role in bringing us into the world, and that includes taking action and stopping procrastination.
But let’s look at some examples that I hope will clarify things and provide you with a starting point to experiment with your stones.
First, let’s ask ourselves: why do we procrastinate? I mean, what’s behind those thoughts like, “I know I should do X, but I just can’t,” “I start, but I know I’ll get lost and won’t stay consistent,” or “As soon as I have a new goal in mind, I’m overwhelmed by doubts that are stronger than my vision, so I give up”?
Let’s explore some possible reasons together.
Below, you’ll find some examples of these “whys.” The stones associated with each example are just one possibility—it doesn’t mean they’re the best for your specific case.
If you don’t feel ready for an individual consultation, the stones listed below can be a great starting point to experiment with, observe, and see what unfolds.
Choose the statement that best aligns with your deepest inner voice regarding the difficulty of overcoming procrastination. Some of these might seem strange, but read them all slowly, allowing them to resonate within you, and give them the space they need.
It’s possible that more than one statement will resonate with you because there are always multiple reasons why a resistance is created and has a valid reason to remain within the subtle body.
I suggest you go with the one that feels most relevant to you inside.
“There is something in this step that doesn’t belong to me, that doesn’t align with my spirit, nor do I want it to become part of me.”
Being able to see our true path is the result of a conscious journey, not a random one. It’s often very easy to confuse what’s right for others with what’s right for us.
If you believe this is the reason you keep procrastinating, what you perceive as a block might actually be a life-saving invitation to reconnect with yourself, to recognize your talents and your will, and to pursue them
If you’ve recognized yourself in this statement but are unsure of your path, your calling, or your mission, I suggest working with Blue Opal (which stimulates the back of the throat) alongside Howlite (which gently activates the Sacral area).
While Howlite gently encourages the body to open up to somatic feeling (so we can clearly perceive what moves our vital energy and what doesn’t), Blue Opal helps me recognize the deep dimension of my inner truth, guiding me to express it with authenticity and fluidity.
This combination fosters a harmonious dialogue between body and mind, allowing me to align my choices with what truly resonates with my being.
If, on the other hand, we are already aware of the path that belongs to us and our calling, all that’s left is to take one small step each day to embody it. Below, you’ll find some possible voices that might emerge.
“I know this choice is right, but I let myself be too influenced by others' opinions, which confuse me.”
The natural tendency to be open to the opinions of others is valuable because they can bring us information and suggestions we hadn’t considered, which can inspire us and enrich our journey. However, if we are not well-structured, grounded, and balanced from the base, we risk being tossed around by the opinions of friends, family, and acquaintances, eventually finding ourselves lost.
In this case, I recommend experimenting with a combination of Amethyst, Honey Calcite, and Jet.
While we are supported in living the present moment with simplicity and openness (Jet), we gradually and gently learn to take our place, finding greater trust in ourselves (Honey Calcite). Throughout this process, it’s important to maintain our autonomy in decision-making, critical thinking, and willpower—this is where Amethyst comes in.
The areas that require attention in this case are the Crown (Vertex or 7th Chakra), just above the navel (Solar Plexus or 3rd Chakra), and the coccyx (Root or 1st Chakra).
“I know I need to take this path, but when I think about it, I feel weak because this choice makes me feel like I’m betraying my family.”
At the root of many of our resistances lies what we know about life, the world, and ourselves. The core of this information is formed during childhood and adolescence; it’s the legacy of our ancestors, the wisdom of our family lineage.
As adults, when we have our own personal experiences of the world, we discover new territories, but what happens is that we might fear exploring them because they don’t seem to align (at least apparently) with the values, opinions, and voices of our ancestors.
We experience this fear of betraying our ancestors as a form of resistance. It’s like a “pulling back” from that choice because we feel we lack approval, and without approval, we can’t draw strength from it, so we will fail. It’s as if an internal voice says, “I can’t go there, I can’t make that choice because I’d be rejected by my own clan, and I’d die.”
Naturally, what this voice refers to isn’t an actual death, but rather the limbic brain speaking, not the rational one. Still, the inner experience for someone facing a choice that takes them away from inherited models and securities can feel like a death.
It’s a deep fear, rooted in the primary need for belonging, which can manifest as anxiety, guilt, or an unexplained block. However, recognizing this dynamic is the first step in transforming it: understanding that authenticity is not betrayal but evolution allows space for a new awareness and a freer, more harmonious way of honoring our roots.
If this is the conflict you’re experiencing, you’ll likely recognize it if you make listening to yourself a regular practice. Otherwise, this voice—the true source of the block—might remain deaf to your inner ear, making change very difficult.
If you feel that this statement resonates with you, a possible frequency to experiment with could be that provided by Stromatolite, Purpurite, and Yellow Opal.
While Stromatolite guides us into the depths of our memories, showing us our place (and role) in our family tree, Purpurite helps us break free from the grip of conditioning from authoritative figures, finding greater autonomy and freedom of movement. However, it’s essential in this process to establish greater solidity with deep roots even at the center, which is why I’d also suggest adding Yellow Opal to help us recognize our true value and regain trust in ourselves.
The areas that require attention are the knees, the area just above the navel (Solar Plexus or 3rd Chakra), and the Vertex (also known as the Crown or 7th Chakra).
“I know I should do x for myself, but the house, the commitments, and the family always end up coming first!”
This voice is more frequently perceived by women, although men are not immune to it at all! The origin of this resistance is typically linked, like the previous one, to generational inheritance, but I wanted to distinguish it from the previous one because it is more closely tied to dedicating time to the Self.
The difficulty many women face in taking care of themselves is not only a matter of time or priorities, but it runs deep in an inheritance passed down from generation to generation.
For centuries, the female role has been associated with taking care of others: the family, the home, the children, the partner. This vision has become so deeply rooted in our culture and our cells (so not just in the mind, but in biology) that it has turned into an automatic response, a print that often activates without us being fully aware of it.
It is a memory that lives inside us, an "unconscious program" that leads us to place the needs of others before our own.
This belief is not just mental; it is written in our DNA: generations of women before us have lived under the conviction that their value was measured by their ability to give of themselves, often to the point of exhaustion.
Moreover, the act of giving fully, for women, is not only a cultural and familial memory, but it also has a deep physiological and biological foundation.
The female body has developed and evolved to receive, nourish, and give life. During pregnancy, a woman shares her nourishment, her breath, her vital energy with another being, becoming the channel through which life manifests. This process imprints in the female cells a deep predisposition to give, to support, and to care, not only as an act of love but as part of their biological nature.
This memory, however, can be transformed and completed, for ourselves and for the generations to come, as epigenetics demonstrates. We can honor our ancestors not by repeating their sacrifices, but by integrating a new, broader awareness.
If you wish to receive help from crystals to understand this memory more deeply and complete it, I suggest carrying with you the message of Pink Opal, Fossil Wood, and Carnelian. While Fossil Wood offers us a gentle yet deep grounding, showing us the legacies of our tree, Carnelian encourages us to reconnect with what makes us feel vital and what we truly need. Both movements carried by these stones are supported by Pink Opal, which, gently guiding us into the depths of the heart, shows us how to celebrate our inner beauty, moving beyond guilt and learning to receive our own healing.
The areas that may require our attention are the knees, the Heart, and the Sacral (the lower abdomen, known as the 2nd Chakra).
“I like the idea, and I know it’s right for me, but I think I won’t be able to do it, and what if I fail or do something wrong?”
If we tend to ask a lot from ourselves, what we fear most is that relentless inner judge who, even when something goes well, tells us it’s not good enough or it will go wrong in the future. On one hand, we want to pursue a new project or simply introduce a new ritual into our day, but on the other, we feel overwhelmed by the newness and all that it might mean for us.
If this is your case, you could introduce the frequency created by the combination of Nephrite Jade, Yellow Opal, and Lava into your journey.
While Lava helps release emotional toxins, anchoring us flexibly in the present, Nephrite Jade assists us in processing and integrating emotions that come from self-judging thoughts, helping us accept imperfection as an essential part of the evolutionary process. This way, we regain the lightness and freshness necessary to manage our resources without scattering them. However, you might feel a bit “low on motivation,” but this is only because you may need to give more voice to your ego (the healthy one). I therefore suggest also integrating Yellow Opal, which will help you understand that everything has its own time to come into being, and while waiting for it to manifest, it is possible and necessary to remain upright, confident, and strong.
The areas that may require attention are the knees, the area just above the belly button (Solar Plexus or 3rd Chakra), and the energetic area corresponding to the mouth of the stomach (called the Seed of the Heart Chakra or Pistachio Chakra).
“I know I should do X, but I only feel the weight of it, not the enthusiasm for my transformation.”
We often procrastinate because what we know we should do doesn't bring us joy; it's simply something that "has to be done" because that's what people do, because if we don't do it, the situation will worsen. This new intention, which should lead us to the more expanded version of ourselves, becomes a new burden to carry.
In other words, even before I begin pursuing a goal, I don’t have the drive to do it; in fact, I already feel its weight on my shoulders.
It's normal that at the first opportunity, I'll let go. That intention will turn into, "I know I should, but screw it… I'm staying in my comfort zone!"
When we notice this posture in ourselves, it's possible that within this same dynamic, our body is inviting us to reconnect with passion, joy, warmth, and spontaneity, even if our goal requires a bit of self-discipline.
If you feel that this is your case, I invite you to carry with you a frequency that can help you reconnect with the physical body (because it is from there that we learn enthusiasm and passion) so that we can then channel it into our daily life, while also supporting you in opening your heart to the new and to life, with simplicity. This frequency could be provided by Carnelian and Aventurine when brought together.
The areas that require attention are the Heart (4th Chakra) and the Sacral area (lower abdomen or 2nd Chakra).
"I’m sure this choice is right for me, that I could do it, and I don’t have trouble taking action, it’s just that I tend to get scattered and I struggle with disciplining myself."
Sometimes, what holds us back from pursuing our goals is simply a bit of laziness and fear of the new.
In this case, a frequency created by Tiger's Eye and White Jade could be helpful. While Tiger's Eye gives you a "little push," encouraging you to "dive into this new adventure," White Jade calms the mental chatter (which are the stories that come to stop us from taking action :P). With this combination, you'll be supported not only in starting but also in maintaining your goals and pursuing them with determination, commitment, and confidence.
The areas that may need attention are the area about two fingers above the navel (Solar Plexus, 3rd Chakra) and the area associated with the pituitary gland at the center of the skull (Third Eye or 6th Chakra).
Consider that these are just some of the possible reasons that make it difficult for us to pursue the goals we’ve set for ourselves.
Remember that the frequencies associated with each motivation are hypothetical, meaning they are coherent with the message carried by the stone, but they might also be different for you. So, even if you fully identify with the statement, it doesn’t mean that the stones suggested are the best ones for your particular case.
If you're unsure about which crystals to introduce into your evolutionary journey and want to be sure you're heading in the right direction, you can book your individual consultation available on the website, which you can find here.
"So what? Now that I have my stones, what do I do with them?"
If at this point the little voice inside you is saying something like this, HERE you'll find a brief guide on how to introduce crystals and stones into your path of awareness and make them a tool for your growth.
If procrastination is your Achilles' heel, remember that overcoming it is something you learn through practice—it’s like a muscle that needs to be trained! The more we allow ourselves to accept the challenge, the more we educate our body-mind-spirit to recognize that yes, it can be demanding, but what we will receive in return is a new awareness of ourselves, a new skin in which we will feel more alive, more ourselves. An invaluable treasure, in short!
One last important clarification, especially if this is the first of my articles you’re reading: the support provided by crystals is to facilitate a subtle movement within our energetic system, not to change our will or actions.
It means that every time we work with the stones consciously, we will be facilitated in taking a step in our growth journey, but we will be the ones taking the step, not the crystal or the stone! Understanding this aspect is crucial to allow us to adopt the right posture towards ourselves. Crystals are tools of harmonization and support, but true transformation occurs through our intention and commitment.
Relying on the stones with awareness means recognizing their potential without falling into the illusion that they can act in our place. Only by doing so can we gain the maximum benefit from them on our personal growth path.
I hope this article was useful to you and that it was a pleasant read. If you didn’t find the internal voice causing you to procrastinate among the ones mentioned in this article, let me know in the comments, I’d be happy to offer you my advice as soon as possible.
Thanks again,
Francesca
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